“I hate being single.” A phrase we often hear on Valentines Day, I mean, Single Awareness Day. Some people are fine with being single; it gives them the opportunity to “look around”. But others are depressed by it. How come not many people are alright with singleness?
I was once not okay with being single.
There. I said it.
I used to think that I was gonna find THE guy my freshman year in college. No, I wasnt going to college for the Mrs. degree, but I was expecting to possibly find a guy.
Last week was Valentines Day, and being here at Liberty University, I never felt so single in my life. (I didnt know that was possible). But seriously, I felt like everyone was on a date. (Even though half this campus is single).
But then, God changed my perspective on singleness with one simple blog.
Jefferson Bethke, a name you may know, posted a link to his wife’s blog about being okay with singleness. I just so happened to read it, and it changed my life.
Here is a link to Alyssa Bethke’s blog “Hope in Singleness”
I suggest you read it.
By reading this blog, I realized that the reason why I havent dated anyone yet is because I AM NOT READY.
God knows me better than I know myself, and He is protecting me and preparing me for a future relationship. He knows that Im not ready to be in a relationship just yet. And, now, Im okay grateful for that.
Those of us who are single may not be ready, physically or emotionally or spiritually, to be in a relationship right now. Or God may be using you to further His kingdom right now and if you were in a relationship right now, it would interfere with your work for God. After all, we are here to further His kingdom.
To me, dating is serious. We date to marry, so, if we cant see ourselves marrying some guy, then we shouldnt date him. Now I understand that some people date around to make sure that a certain guy is the right one for them, for reassurance. Im alright with that. But Im not alright with the type of people who go out on dates all the time just because they dont like being alone or want to say no or because “he’s so cute”.
I may be a hopeless romantic, but I want my first boyfriend to be my husband. And I want to be his first girlfriend. I know, my standards are high, but it also prepares me to find the right guy. God has that special guy out there waiting for me patiently as I wait for Him. While I wait, I am to respect Him, love Him and pray for Him.
You may ask “How can she do that when she hasnt even met this guy?”
Easy. Stay pure. Dont get involved with other guys. Stay true to your husband by not going too far in your relationships. If youve gone around making out with a bunch of guys, those memories will come back to you when you’re kissing your husband.
Pray for your future spouse often, they could use the prayer.
Prepare yourself to be a godly spouse. Draw closer to God so that you can be strong and your yes will mean yes and your no will mean no.
Be okay with being single, theres a godly man waiting out there for you somewhere.
Also, heres a hopeful song for you by some great godly men (Anthem Lights): Hide Your Love Away
Thanks for reading. 🙂
Be Mo' 